It's ok to go through things.
It's best to lean on close friends when things get hard. Trust in the people who have proven that they love you.
You don't have to have all the right words to say to someone who is sad. Sometimes a hug is enough.
Sometimes a hug is more than enough.
Even if the broken heart is our own fault, it still feels empty inside.
Sometimes it's not our fault. Still feels empty inside. I checked.
There is nothing too big to overcome if you trust in the right things.
Out of suffering, beautiful things can be formed.
Beautiful things can be formed out of happy times too.
Memories will linger. Sometimes they make you smile, sometimes they feel like they are hollowing out your soul. Be careful what you are putting in your head, cause it ain't going anywhere for quite a while.
When you are hurting, choose your words more carefully than ever. You can never erase it once it's out of your mouth.
This, too, will pass. It really will.
Don't be afraid to cry. Even if you are a big macho guy.
It's ok not to be strong or have it all together when you are being challenged. Your soul is being tempered into strength you've never had before, but first it has to be softened and reformed.
The things that challenge us the most always seem to be the things that end up molding us into the most beautiful shapes.
It's important to go through the steps of the grieving process when something bad happens. Just try not to linger on anger too long. It tends to turn to bitterness, which has no effect on anyone other than yourself.
Inspiring truths may or may not ease the pain. It doesn't diminish the truthfulness of their nature.
There are things that even shoe shopping can't fix. (gasp!)
Most importantly... don't do things that you know are going to damage you more, just because you are hurting. It's easy to shut yourself off from the world and the pain, and in doing so, make yourself numb to your own actions. Suffering can cause us to hide away, or self-medicate, or self-inflict. Don't let yourself believe that you are worth less just because someone may have treated you like you are. Sometimes people are blind. Don't let yourself become numb to the consequences of your actions just cause you are trying to dull the pain. The consequences will be waiting for you once you heal.
These things are on my mind cause I'm hurting. That's probably obvious. A few things have happened over the course of the last 2 months or so that have rocked me to my core. One situation was not my fault. One was. I take responsibility for it. I deserve to be hurting over it, and it's probably gonna affect me for a long time. The truth is, I was hurting so badly over the thing that was not my fault, I numbed myself to the pain by shutting myself off from everything. I don't think I felt any strong emotions for almost 2 weeks. I didn't care about doing right, and I didn't care about doing wrong.
This is a very dangerous place to be. Learn from my mistakes and don't fall for the lie that temporary distraction, as real as it may feel, will do any good for you in the long run.
I don't know how to end this one on a positive note. I'm still working through it all, though I've taken significant steps forward in the last few days.
Just don't give up, and don't give in. You're worth too much.
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